My heart was breaking as she spoke.
Tears running down her face. I could barely understand her words through her sobs.
“I hate that I’m such a mess. Everyone else handles difficulties so much better than I do”. “I shouldn’t need so much support”, she continued.
And there it is!
The words…the lies that countless women tell themselves. My heart breaks because I’ve heard them so many times from so many women.
“Everybody else is handling ‘it’ better” and
“I should be able to do this alone”
Even before I go any further, I want you to eradicate these beliefs from your heart and mind right now.
Print them out, then burn them.
Scribble them out.
Erase them out of you psyche.
Whatever it takes, never speak them or think them again.
Both of these ideas come from one underlying belief that you may not even be aware of.
I am a burden.
The idea that you should be able to handle difficulties “better’ is a manifestation of believing that you are even a burden to yourself and unworthy of your emotions.
The idea that you are a burden to others is the belief that you’re unworthy of other’s time and energy. And that supporting you is a drain on them.
Both of these ideas block your ability to receive. I addressed this in my 5-day challenge The Joy of Receiving.
In all honesty, when you’re feeling down and facing difficult times these feelings are probably going to come up even if you think you’ve eradicate them. It’s human nature. Don’t beat yourself up about it.
Instead do this:
Use EFT as soon as possible to move through the emotions. It’s not about making the emotions go away but moving through them. Tapping on exactly what you’re feeling first will bring calm and clarity to your body and mind, then you’ll be able to tap on the opposite. The opposite can be something like: I love receiving support, I am worthy of support and All of my emotions are valid, I love and accept myself, especially when I feel these emotions.
I’ll share with you, what my client discovered as she too was moving through this powerful process. First, she realized that the first few minutes of tapping cleared her mind and lifted the heaviness of what she was feeling. She realized that the longer she put off the tapping process the worse the emotions and her negative self-talk became.
She also discovered that once the emotions lifted that she could see the blessings in her situation immediately. I’ve sure you’ve heard the phrase “hindsight is 20/20” and that seeing the blessing in a difficult time can take years. She could see the blessings immediately just by addressing her emotions in the moment.
This is how you get to receive joyfully the fullness and richness in every experience, even those you may deem negative.
Please leave your awarenesses or experiences in the comments below. I love hearing from you.
Here’s to creating the life you LOVE waking up to,
Michelle